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On REST: "Go Lay Down"

"Caring for myself is not self-indulgence, it is self-preservation, and that is an act of political warfare"

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“I am a proud member of the nap ministry. 🙋🏾‍♀️ I deeply believe in rest and vehemently reject the expectation to sacrifice mental, physical and emotional wellbeing for… anything really. There is no “success” without health. While I respect and am often participating in grind/hustle culture, I find it often forgets one thing: our humanity. We’re whole beings who need balance, who need care, who need pause. So when the weekends arrive, you know what I'm about to do, right...? (click to see)


I became really serious about rest after watching my mom run herself ragged. She was everything to everyone and often with no appreciation, with no acknowledgement and with her good deeds simply begetting more requests. Like so many women and particularly Black women/mothers the expectation for her was to carry everything (“the mule of the world”), to fix it all and to do so in silence. Once I realized that there is no prize for being the self-sacrificial lamb, I completely changed

my relationship to rest. While I grew up in the hustle culture that spoke about rest as being “lazy” or “not wanting it bad enough,” I now see it as an act of self preservation and at times an act of resistance in a world that doesn't always value the full humanity of Black women. So when Audre Lorde, writes “caring for myself is not self-indulgence, it is self-preservation, and that is an act of political warfare” for me, this act of “political warfare” is my existence itself. If I can take care of myself well enough and love myself deeply enough to show up whole and well in spaces that may not care for me, that’s already half the battle in making sure I live in a world where my full humanity is honored.